Marian
“There are three ways to ultimate success.
The first way is to be kind.
The second way is to be kind.
The third way is to be kind.” -Mister Rogers
My mother Marian was a remarkable woman. Her greatest legacy was the love she shared with her family and friends. She was kind and gave of herself unselfishly despite her human flaws.
She had a wonderful sense of humor and never missed the opportunity to offer up a meal to friend or a place to sleep if needed. And then, at 85, she had a massive stroke.
This once vibrant self-sufficient woman became entirely dependent on others. Her outsides did not match her insides. We schlepped her everywhere, and it was hard. She accepted the indignities with grace. She barely complained and always showed up…maybe more for us than for herself.
Although the veil of her illness was profound, my mom’s spirit was still intact. We were given the opportunity of “loving her on life’s terms”, and although it was often painful, we showed up. Throughout her life she showed up, we did what we learned from her.
When we are confronted with those who present differently, be it from age, disability, race, and or illness, it’s uncomfortable. We are at a loss for words. The discomfort leads to avoidance and some strange behaviors. I suggest we reconsider.
For the last 30 years, my mission, through my photography, has been to “capture love on life’s terms.” The kindness, empathy, and love I’ve captured has filled my cup. This is why I know that this IS my purpose.
I dedicate my work to you mom. Your kindness and compassion gave me the grace to do what I do.
Thank you.
Love Lisa,
Member of Our Collective Humanity